Do you live the life you’ve always wanted or are you trying to fit in to and be comfortable with an existing situation? Are you in control of your own life or do you just go where the situations and people around you go? Two of my clients recently admitted to themselves: “That’s not the relationship I’ve dreamed of with my partner and father of my two children.” Both of them are wonderful, smart, successful women and mothers – one has elementary school children and the other is a mom of two teenage boys. One is a working mom while the other has made the conscious decision to stay home and raise her children.
It’s not so difficult to answer this question but at times it is difficult to actually accept reality. Most of us believe we deserve to have what we say we want to have. It’s a subconscious belief. And when life is not what we think it should be for us, not only are we not happy but we also get very angry. The tricky part is that we blame others for what’s happening to us instead of taking the responsibility. That is why we often sabotage ourselves. The way we do that is by being passive, not getting into action while at the same time waiting for someone else to make a move first.
How many times have you told yourself what you really want from a situation or a person and what you need to do? And how many times did you not do it because there was always a good excuse … because the other person ,,, the conditions … it was not exactly what you expected … it did not happen as you had imagined it? I’m the first to admit, I’ve done it again and again.
Think about how it would be if you could break this vicious circle; break the belief that there is no hope for you to create on your own a worthy change that will last. Can you imagine what it would be like if you’d make your own decisions for yourself and take action today, now? How would you feel? “Will I need to move out of my comfort zone?” you may ask. “For sure” I’ll reply. It’ll probably feel uncomfortable or strange at the beginning. But it’s a start, an important first step towards creating your life the way you want it to be.
The key to your success is your mind. And if you want to live the life you dream of, you need to start by setting your personal growth goals. As Albert Einstein has said: “To live a happy life tie it to a goal not to people or things.”
So, go ahead! 1. Choose your goal, 2. Commit to it and 3. Get into Action now. Because in the end it is not what we are capable of doing but what we actually do to make changes and bring the results we want.