{"id":954,"date":"2021-10-22T10:49:34","date_gmt":"2021-10-22T07:49:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/?p=954"},"modified":"2021-10-22T10:49:34","modified_gmt":"2021-10-22T07:49:34","slug":"my-blog-what-is-hiding-behind-the-four-most-commonly-asked-questions-about-goal-setting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/my-blog-what-is-hiding-behind-the-four-most-commonly-asked-questions-about-goal-setting\/","title":{"rendered":"What is hiding behind the four most commonly asked questions about goal setting."},"content":{"rendered":"

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]\u201cYes, I have goals and I\u2019m working towards them\u201d or \u201cNo, I don\u2019t really have anything planned right now\u201d are two of the most popular answers I get when the topic of goal setting comes up.<\/p>\n

Although we may all agree that goals are important not all of us feel equally at ease with the process. Here are the 4 most commonly asked questions regarding goal setting:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. It\u2019s not the right time for me.<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. I\u2019m afraid I won\u2019t make it. I won\u2019t succeed.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. I\u2019m not very clear about what it is I want.<\/span><\/li>\n
  4. I want to do something different but changes make me feel uncomfortable.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    A good way to answer each one of those questions is to see how they may influence our everyday life. Let\u2019s take for example two very significant areas of our life – work and personal relationships.<\/p>\n

    The first question deals with timing<\/span>: \u201cIt\u2019s not the right time for me.\u201d So what you really mean is that although you\u2019re in a job you hate now is not the right time to look for another because you believe there\u2019s some security -even though it may be a false one- where you currently are. And although you\u2019re in a bad relationship you put up with it because you have two small kids and now is not the right time to think about yourself.<\/p>\n

    \u201cI\u2019m afraid I won\u2019t make it. I won\u2019t succeed\u201d is the second question. This one has to do with your self-confidence.<\/span> What you\u2019re saying here is that you\u2019re in a job you actually don\u2019t like but you prefer to stay where you are because you\u2019re afraid you won\u2019t find another. Or you are in a mediocre relationship but you prefer to stay in it because you\u2019re afraid you won\u2019t be able to express your feelings clearly or make the first step towards finding a solution, let alone moving out.<\/p>\n

    The third question, \u201cI\u2019m not very clear about what it is I want,\u201d is all about clarity and direction.<\/span> So what you mean is that you\u2019re in a job you don\u2019t like but you prefer to stay where you are because you\u2019re confused about what you think you may actually want. Or you are in a mediocre relationship but you prefer to stay in it because you are not ready to commit even though you don\u2019t like being single, you\u2019re a bit bored with your partner and you don\u2019t know what you want at this stage of your life.<\/p>\n

    The fourth most commonly asked question regarding goals has to do with your willingness to get out of your comfort zone<\/span> and move on: \u201cI want to do something different but changes make me feel uncomfortable.\u201d So what you mean is that you\u2019re in a job you don\u2019t like but you prefer to stay where you are because you think this is stability and you\u2019re afraid to change your work environment. Or you are in a mediocre relationship but you prefer to stay in it because even the simplest thought of going into the dating process again scares you.<\/p>\n

    I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard that life is happening to you while you\u2019re busy making plans. So, yes, you may be confused about what it is you want at this very moment. You have every right to be and there\u2019s no need to feel guilty about it. A serious issue of safety or practical difficulties may indeed exist. And yes, change can be scary because it gets you out of your comfort zone. On top of that, it\u2019s not with the same ease that each one of us copes with change.<\/p>\n

    However, there\u2019s a big BUT in all this. And that\u2019s the fact this is your life you\u2019re talking about. You may come up with endless reasons -or excuses- to act or not, to move on or not. There\u2019s one question you need to ask yourself though: \u201cFor how much longer?\u201d<\/span> Think: How much longer will you keep on allowing your doubts and fears to be in charge? \u00a0How much longer will you keep on postponing decisions about your life and the life of your children? How much longer will you keep on blaming others and harming yourself?<\/p>\n

    If you want to make changes in any part of your life the right time is Now! To be in control of your life you need to set your own goals and dare to do something different. Yes, it may be scary but If you don\u2019t dare, if you don\u2019t try your best you\u2019ll never know how well you can make it. Janis Joplin has said it beautifully: \u201cDon\u2019t compromise yourself. You are all you\u2019ve got!\u201d<\/span>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row]<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    [vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]\u201cYes, I have goals and I\u2019m working towards them\u201d or \u201cNo, I don\u2019t really have anything planned right now\u201d are two of the most popular answers [\u2026]<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":955,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-954","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-my-blog-itsmylife-en"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/954","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=954"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/954\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/955"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=954"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=954"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=954"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}