{"id":821,"date":"2021-04-14T12:08:22","date_gmt":"2021-04-14T09:08:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/?p=821"},"modified":"2021-04-14T12:08:22","modified_gmt":"2021-04-14T09:08:22","slug":"my-blog-whathelpsmedealwithmydaughtersangerisproventobeavaluabletoolduringthecovidquarantine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/my-blog-whathelpsmedealwithmydaughtersangerisproventobeavaluabletoolduringthecovidquarantine\/","title":{"rendered":"What helps me deal with my daughter\u2019s anger is a valuable tool during the COVID quarantine."},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wpb-content-wrapper\"><p>[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]My eight-year-old daughter is so fed up and tired from the online schooling. It\u2019s been going on for a long time now. No kids to play, no socializing, pressure to follow the classes in front of the screen. The same screen we try to put a limit to and tell her to avoid. <span style=\"color: #96c93e;\">Double messages, mixed feelings, lots of pressure, lots of anger hence the aggressive behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>My husband and I both work from home and we often have to share our home office. We are also tired. We feel the pressure too although we try different ways to cope and recharge. Three people in the house all the time \u2013 I can only imagine how it may be with more. <span style=\"color: #96c93e;\">It\u2019s very easy to pick up on each other\u2019s stress and mirror it.<\/span> It\u2019s very easy to let difficult situations escalate to volcano reactions.<\/p>\n<p>The general advice, that I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard, is to keep everyday life as stable as before COVID and maintain a routine; as much as possible that is. Because truth is that nothing is the same. In fact, some things have changed so much so that it\u2019s possible they won\u2019t go back to the way they were.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #96c93e;\">What helps me deal with my daughter\u2019s anger and put things into perspective, especially now during the COVID quarantine, is to try to think of the possible factors that may create it:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Her specific needs that have not been met.<\/li>\n<li>Non-realistic expectations \u2013 hers and ours.<\/li>\n<li>The sense that she\u2019s been wronged.<\/li>\n<li>The sense of not having enough control and choices over her life.<\/li>\n<li>Her fear of losing someone dear due to the pandemic.<\/li>\n<li>Physical pain.<\/li>\n<li>Unfulfilled goals.<\/li>\n<li>Punishment, conflicts.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It is neither feasible to constantly keep our children happy nor realistic to expect them to be happy all the time. Having said that, I also need to remind myself that <span style=\"color: #96c93e;\">we parents are not responsible for our children\u2019s emotions<\/span> <span style=\"color: #96c93e;\">whether positive or negative.<\/span> We may strive to provide a secure and calm environment but it is they who choose how they feel.<span style=\"color: #96c93e;\"> Our role is not to protect them from their difficult emotions but to help them deal with them.<\/span>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row]<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]My eight-year-old daughter is so fed up and tired from the online schooling. It\u2019s been going on for a long time now. No kids to play,<span class=\"excerpt-hellip\"> [\u2026]<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":827,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-821","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/821","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=821"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/821\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/827"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=821"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=821"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.itsmylife.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=821"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}